Unfortunately, you are only giving summary descriptions of what you have done, rather than explicit commands you have used, so the details below are guesswork, and if any are wrong please say so before doing anything.
- Exported two Gedcom files from TMG with one tree in each file.
- Opened your Gedcom in FH using File > Gedcom File Tasks > Open Gedcom File so that - Family Historian Gedcom - is shown in the top border of the main window.
Alternatively, used File > Project Window > New Project > Import a GEDCOM file so that - Family Historian Project - is shown in the top border of the main window.
- Used File > Merge/Compare File and selected your husband's Gedcom file.
- In the Merge File window on the Individuals tab, it should show you and your husband's records as * Merge * Compatible or Null Merge and all the rest as simply Keep or * Add *, which means it will merge you and your husband's Individual records, but retain all others separately. If you are happy with that, you do NOT actually have to tick anything.
- Now move on to the Families tab, where only your family record will be merged, and all the rest retained separately.
- Step through all the other tabs for Notes, Multimedia, Sources, etc, but it is unlikely anything will need to be done.
- Click the Merge button and accept the defaults. Do not worry about unchecked warnings. The checking feature is only needed for more complex merges.
After the
Merge the
Record Id for all your husband's tree records will have changed, because they must be unique to avoid conflicts with your tree records, and the
Merge of you and your husband's records will adopt the
Record Id originally in your tree.
That should produce the desired effect for you and your husband, with both your parents, and the rest of the ancestors from both trees.
Just turn off the function in
Tools > Preferences > Internet Data Matching.
Yes, delete
Projects using
File > Project Window > More Tasks > Delete Project.
You do NOT need to uninstall/reinstall FH for basic tasks like that.
As I said before, you are trying to run before you can walk.
How long did it take for you to become familiar with using TMG.
Please allow that much time to learn about FH techniques.
See how_to:key_features_for_newcomers|> Key Features for Newcomers.